When you are in an abusive relationship, the abuser holds the power; it is after all, power that the abuser wields best of all weapons. You come to a point, whether it is early in the relationship, or many years into the relationship, that you start to consider getting out. Leaving. What will this leaving thing be like? Maybe you’ve left before, only to return. For whatever reason, financial dependency, emotional attachment, or fear, you felt you had to go back.